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{Checklist for Life: Week 5- Accepting Others, Zero Tolerance}

 The  Checklist for Life, book study continues. If you’re new to the blog, you can view all past lessons here ->Feel free to go back and review and download the FREE Scripture Cards for each week.

Today, we started with a quick review on last weeks’ study. Jaden came up with a script to use that would help him in the future when his friends began to gossip. Then we jumped right into today’s topic: {Accepting Others, Zero Tolerance}.

Through the years, we’ve had our share of kids who’ve demonstrated zero tolerance. I’ve had many talks with my son about experiences at school and as a mother, I can tell you that it’s not fun at all seeing your child go through the negative talk from peers at school. It’s heartbreaking and if you’re anything like me… when you touch my children, you touch me!!! But what is a parent to do today?

It seems that in today’s culture, bullying has become the norm.  On their website, Bullying Statistics, says that:

“Bullying includes behaviors that focus on making someone else feel inadequate, or focus on belittling someone else. Bullying includes harassment, physical harm, repeatedly demeaning speech and efforts to ostracize another person. Bullying is active, and is done with the intention of bringing another person down. It is important to realize that there are different kinds of bullying: including physical, verbal, emotional, and now cyber bullying.”

According to their statistics, about 30% of kids have been either the bully or the victims  of bullying; Boys tending to use physical bullying, while girls tending to use verbal and emotional bullying.

With zero tolerance rising up in our schools and sometimes even churches, what is a parent to do? Reality is that even if you wanted to take on the bully that is making your child’s life impossible, taking matters into your own hands can result in major consequences. You don’t want to end up in a court room or even worse, jail!

So as a Christian, how do we teach our children about accepting others?

Read

First things first… let’s check out God’s word. What does God’s word say about {Accepting Others}?

– We read the story of the Good Samaritan, Luke 10:25-37.

Other Scriptures on this topic:

  • Psalm 147:3 NKJV
  • 1 Corinthians 4:5 NRSV
  • Hebrews 12:14 NKJV
  • Micah 6:8 NKJV
  • Matthew 7:1-2 NRSV
  • 1 Timonthy 5:21 NKJV

Well, as you can see, God’s word has a lot to say about Accepting Others. Download your FREE  {Scripture Memory Cards on Accepting Others}(<—–simply click link)

Here’s a tip: I cut these out and laminated them. I then bought loose leaf book rings at STAPLES (office supply store), punched a hole through them and now my kids can study the verses anytime without losing any of the scripture cards (especially helpful when reviewing while on the road).

What It Looks Like For Us

One story that came up in our discussion this week was the fact that my son was at times made fun of last year for his clothes. We had a fire in our home in October of last year and we did not get our clothes back until 4 months after the fire when we finally came back home. It was a rough time for our family. My son especially. He had just started a new school year in a new school and here he was with nothing but the clothes on his back. God blessed us with many donations and that’s what we used for those four months. Whether we liked it or not…whether ‘cool’ or ‘uncool’, we had to make do with what we had. For a 6th grader, it can be detrimental.

When my son came home with his stories, there were times I cried and simply took it all to the feet of Jesus. My major concern was that the behavior he was encountering in school would not lead to physical behavior. My concern was his protection. But really- what can you do when you can’t sit with them in school and walk them from class to class? Other than speaking to teachers, guidance counselors, principals and those in authority… what can a parent do?

For me the only answer was prayer, prayer, prayer! If it were not for God, I’m not sure how I would have made it through. Surrendering my children to Jesus daily gave me the peace and assurance that ultimately, my son was safe. Why? because He was in God’s hands.

 

Round Table Discussion

  • We discussed the difference between how  the religious people and the Samaritan treated the wounded man on the side of the road (from Luke 10:25-37).
  • Question: Why do you think people are so mean with those who are different?
  • Question: Have you ever been treated like that?
  • Question: How do you treat people?
  • We talked about how God views the oddballs (their value in His eyes).
  • We talked about the equality in the sense that we are all children of God regardless of our differences.
  • We talked about our own experiences with our house fire last year and the things we had to do without. We talked about how even though we didn’t have the same material things, we were still the same people inside.
  • God’s death on the cross for the sins of ALL… including those who are outcast and misfits.
  • Bullying (being the victim and being the bully).
  • The effect our words can have on others.

This week’s study reminded us that we know what it’s like to be on the other side of ZERO TOLERANCE. We know what it’s like to hear the insults; to feel like the misfit or the outcast. Because we know the feeling, we talked about how important it is to not make others feel unaccepted.

We ended the discussion with prayer.

From My Son’s Heart

Q: What did you learn today?

A: “Today I learned about how Jesus told the man about the parable of the good Samaritan. In that parable it was interesting to me how the two religious people (the priest and the Levite) did not help the wounded person, but the Samaritan did. I also learned that it’s important to remember that we need to be nice to God’s children. Also, I need to remember how I felt when I got made fun of because of my clothes. I learned that it’s hypocritical.” (for him to make fun of others when he was on the other side before).

Homework

(pg. 38 in the book)

Read through the Gospels to see how Jesus treated outcasts like Zaccheus and Mary Magdalene.

Confess any judgmental attitude you have toward people who are not like you.

Your Turn

With bullying on the rise, it’s important that we give our children the tools necessary to help them handle these situations. It’s important to teach them how God views people and how God expects us to treat and accept others!

I encourage you to start out with prayer asking God for wisdom and discernment as you tread through these waters. Your children may be enduring situations you have yet to know about… or… they may be the bully we’ve been talking about. Whatever the situation, God is able to reach their hearts. He is able to heal wounds and He is able to lead and instruct them using you as the tool of instruction. Move forward with the understanding that the time you are sowing into your children is the difference that can change the face of our youth today!

Send me your comments and let me know how it went for you. I want to hear about it! And get ready for next week’s topic, {PRIDE}.

© 2016 Darlene Collazo | {In Pursuit} My Quest

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