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{Checklist For Life: Week 9, Parents}

 

The  Checklist for Life, book study continues. If you’re new to the blog, you can view all past lessons here ->Feel free to go back and review and download the FREE Scripture Cards for each week.

This week topic is {Parents: What Do They Know Anyway?}.

We talked about the role a parent plays in the life of their teen. Teenagers may reject the wisdom and teaching of a parent because they do not understand the motives or the heart behind the instruction.

God placed parents in the lives of their children to nurture and instruct them. There is wisdom in a parent that comes from a life of experience.

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First things first… let’s check out God’s word. What does God’s word say about {PARENTS, RESPECT,  & AUTHORITY}?

  • Ephesians 6:2-3
  • Proverbs 4:10
  • Hebrews 12:7
  • Leviticus 19:3
  • Psalm 68:5
  • Proverbs 20:20
  • Proverbs 5:7
  • Romans 13:1
  • Malachi 1:6
  • Psalm 27:10
  • Proverbs 6:20-21

Download your FREE {Scripture Memory Cards on Parents}(<—–simply click link).

Here’s a tip: I cut these out and laminated them. I then bought loose leaf book rings at STAPLES (office supply store), punched a hole through them and now my kids can study the verses anytime without losing any of the scripture cards (especially helpful when reviewing while on the road).

What It Looked Like For Us

This week we talked about the role a parent plays in the life of their teen. Teenagers may reject the wisdom and teaching of a parent because they do not understand the motives or the heart behind the instruction.

God placed parents in the lives of their children to nurture and instruct them. There is wisdom in a parent that comes from a life of experience.

We talked about their role in communication:

  • Keeping open communication is essential in order to reap from a parent’s wisdom.
  • Keep an attitude towards your parents that is grounded in respect (honor them).
  • Treat them with courtesy
  • Speak well of them Follow godly examples
  • Pray and seek God’s guidance for ways/times to approach parents.
  • God will give you wisdom, insight, and direction
  • Trust God with the outcome (parents sometimes fail us)

For Parents Only

It’s important to remember that our kids have feelings also. Avoid exasperating your child with a “because I said so” attitude.

  • Help them understand the reasoning behind your rules. (Ex./ Your child hates curfew. Explain to them the benefits of sleep. The cons of a life lived without proper sleep. Dangers that can be found outside the home late at night. Etc.)

Don’t assume an ‘issue’ is resolved after a night’s rest. If your child went to bed upset, hurt, or offended, chances are they will still feel the same way in the morning. Sit down and talk through the offense with them. Better yet, don’t go to bed with unresolved feelings.

  • Be an example.
  • Treat them with respect also.
  • Love on them continuously.

“Rules without relationship breeds rebellion” ~ John Nuzzo

We want our children to trust us and our direction. We want them to heed our counsel and guidance. However, without first establishing a relationship, our words may fall on deaf ears.

Invest in them when they want to talk about the game, the book, the ‘small’ stuff so that you can invest in them when it’s time to talk about the ‘big’ stuff.

Round Table Discussion

  • Talk about the rules in the home that don’t make much sense to them. Share your reasons for these rules.
  • Talk about how lack of communication tears relationships down.
  • Talk about how open communication builds relationships.
  • Talk about God being the perfect Father and how He never fails us. We can depend on Him!

Homework

(pg. 52 in the book)

Your Turn

The relationship between a parent and child is one of great importance. While we hope that our children will maintain open communication with us, we must not be naive to believe they know how. Taking the time to study this now will help them have the tools they need when miscommunication does occur.

Send me your comments and let me know how it went for you. I want to hear about it! And get ready for next week’s topic, {Why Me? (Purpose)}.

© 2016 Darlene Collazo | {In Pursuit} My Quest

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