Home Is Best {Book Club Thursdays}

We’re reading through  Sally Clarkson’s, The Lifegiving Home: Creating a Place of Belonging and Becoming (affil. link).

For your convenience, all the posts in the series will be archived {here}. So if you miss any, feel free to head on over here to catch up.

Chapter 14: Home Is Best, Serving Life within Your Walls (Sally)

“I’m not a homebody,” my sixteen-year-old said.

“Hmm, what do yo mean by that? You’re not a homebody… you’ll have to figure that one out.”

“What are the things you like to do outside of the home?”

He thought for a moment, “I just like to be outdoors.”

In a culture where being out and about doing things, seeing things, and seeking entertainment, it’s easy to get a bad perspective of what home means. Home becomes boring, unexciting, eventless. And so, we want to be ‘out there’ somewhere. Anywhere. As long as it’s not home.

“Son, do you feel loved at home?”

“Yes,” He responds matter-of-factly.

“Do you feel safe?”

Again, without hesitation, “Yes.”

“Do you ever worry about how you look and what you’re wearing when you’re at home?”

“No, never.”

“Do you feel the peace and joy of God here?”


“Can you be ‘You’ here?”


“Some people hear footsteps in the night and they are afraid of who’s coming into their bedroom. When you go to sleep at night, you never think twice about waking up safely? You feel the protection that comes from knowing mom and dad are here. Home is supposed to be a safe haven, a place where we can come in from all the temptations, pressures, and difficulties of life and simply breathe.

Home is a place of rest, a place where we don’t have to worry about looking a part, showing someone up, competing with the next one. You’re free to simply be you. It’s a place where the peace and joy of God abound. A place where you know you are loved and you don’t have to be something you’re not in order to earn it. And when you’re sad, angry, mad, or broken, you can retreat to your own little corner and know that you’re free to sort through all that as well.  It’s a place where your body, mind, and soul are nourished day in and day out.

Yeah, home is a beautiful place!

Sometimes we have a wrong perspective about home. Perhaps, it’s not so much that “you’re not a homebody”. Sounds to me like you love “home” and everything about what it offers and provides. Maybe you can love “home” and love nature. Love “home” andlove the outdoors. Maybe it’s not so much a ‘this’ or ‘that’. But rather an understanding that loving one doesn’t take away from the beauty found in the other.

One day you’ll have you’re own “home” and you and your wife will be able to create some of these same beautiful aspects of “home”. You don’t have to choose “home” or being out and about. You can live with the right perspective creating “home” and loving what the outdoors has to offer, too!”

He thought about that for a moment as though he hadn’t realized he didn’t have to choose between the two.

I suppose I was just like him. As a single mom in my twenties, I loved being out of the house.

I’ve shared some of my struggles in previous posts regarding managing the details of my home. However, in my case, home reminded me of everything I wasn’t, everything I wasn’t good at. Home reminded me of my weaknesses and inabilities to get things done. Home reminded me of the person I wasn’t and didn’t even know I longed to be.

It wasn’t until our house fire in 2010 that things changed for me. After spending four months in a hotel suite with a family of four, I came back to our house with a resolved heart and mind to learn to make this house a ‘home’.

Sally says, “Home is best.” It’s where we get to serve life within our walls. In 2010, when I realized the influence I have in my small space, I began to walk in that influence. We had just come out of a long season of grieving losses and changes. Yet, I knew the Darlene that was coming back into her house what not the Darlene that left covers in ashes and soot four months earlier. I learned to take the next step, and the next, and the next, until habits began forming, order began flourishing, and life began beating again in my home.

Today, I can say, “Yeah, home is a beautiful place!” and even more so, I can pass on a right perspective to my son and daughter, that they, too, would see God’s blessing over their lives as they ponder, experience, and delight in the beauty of “home”.

Sally shares with us how serving life within her walls looks in her home. From paying attention to detail when serving meals to serving up a place of sanctuary where her family, friends, and visitors can find rest, serving up beauty as she creates traditions and celebrations, to serving up ways of connection for her loved ones, all of it is done with intentionality and purpose. Whether serving up friendships, serving up a welcome, or serving up rest, she reminds us that all of our efforts are simply an extension of the way Jesus served and continues to serve. We participate in His creating a place of becoming and belonging (read the chapter and grab some ideas that might work for you, too!)

Yeah, “Home” is a beautiful place!

Home Is Best... what does that look like for you? Let’s talk about it (feel free to do so in the comments section, on our Facebook page, or privately). Then meet me here next week when we’ll be talking about Blessed and Blessing, Grace, Gratitude, and Generosity.

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Unless otherwise noted, quotes in this post are by Sarah Clarkson

Thoughts To Ponder

1.) What is your idea of “home”?

2.) What changes can you implement to create a life-giving space for you and yours?

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