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{Homemaker: It’s Part Of God’s Design}

imageIn my Pursuit to live the abundant life God has for me, I am now 100% sure that this involves learning to manage my home. I’ve shared before that this does not come natural to me. For many years, I saw myself in the corporate office climbing up the ladder of success. Marriage and home life to me was about 50/50. However most times it looked more like 90% my husband and 10% me.

Quite honestly, I was in no shape or condition to be a wife, yet my youthful pursuits of ‘happiness’ took me to the altar, unprepared and unable to carry out my duties as a wife.

Now hold on a minute…. For all the feminists out there shaking their fists at me, I’m not talking about becoming the doormat in the home. I’m talking about using the power and influence  God has given us as women, to nurture, care for, and be influencers in our homes.

 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to bediscreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.

Titus 2:3-5 (NKJV)

Did you catch that? It talks of the older women teaching the younger women to be ‘homemakers’, to take care of their homes. I know that these are verses we’d much rather put to the side and ignore. But the reality is that without proper order, we will never be able to walk in the fullness God has for us.

For years I desired to have a mentor. A godly woman who would instruct me and teach me the way ‘Titus’ speaks about. However, all I found were women whose main concern was what they were going to wear the next day or who looked better than who. I felt like everyone was quick to talk about the ‘how great they were at running stuff’ yet there I was, clueless, and not finding someone who’d take me by the hand and teach me how to do the same.

imageThat’s when I decided that my pursuit for an abundant life revolved around learning the easy ‘hard’ things, like how to maintain order in a home; and when I learned, I promised myself I would not keep it to myself. I promised myself that I would be that Titus 2 woman to others.

And so, my friend, don’t feel like you are alone if your life is in disorder. There are still many areas where I don’t have a perfect action plan for. And that’s okay. What I am learning though is that every fail is another lesson learned on ‘what not to do’, so in essence, every failure is simply a lesson learned.

I can tell you, that when I stopped leaving it all up to my husband, I learned that I have so much power over the atmosphere in my home. I learned that maintaining my home actually filled me with joy. It made my husband happier. My children weren’t as chaotic. Your atmosphere will definitely impact your family. And when you realize that you have power simply by washing the dishes and having the counters clean, or by having clean towels nicely folded for bath time, when you realize that all these ‘chores’ are holy and that there is purpose in them, all changes.

I wish I could explain it better than the space on this blog post allows me to. I don’t want to come across as ‘so spiritual’ about it all, but I cannot separate the two. When we learn that homemaking is part of the design God intended, we find purpose in the mundane, in the ordinary, in the monotonous.

If you don’t know where to start, check out, {Got 20 Minutes}, Plan Breakfast For A Month: $26, and when you have some time look around the many articles found here on Organization, Meal Planning, Budgeting, and more.

I am sure that with a little bit of practice and much dedication, you too will be able to manage your home!

I want to hear from you!!! What tips and tricks do you have for managing your home?

© 2016 Darlene Collazo | {In Pursuit} My Quest

Comments

  1. I just heard a fabulous sermon recently on the woman’s role. The minister pointed out the use of the word “helper” (in reference to woman) in Genesis is the same word that is used when the Bible refers to the Holy Spirit as our “helper”. That’s certainly not a door-mat role, is it? Thanks so much for your thoughts on this!

    • Before I came to the Lord, I was a single mother. It was very difficult for me to go from the ‘one in charge’ to the ‘helpmate’. My worldview was distorted based on all I’d heard about ‘women not needing a man to get things done’ and about ‘women being in charge’… For a young Christian wife, it can be difficult to sort through our ideas on womanhood and femininity based on culture and on what God says. But yes, just as you said, we are certainly not door-mats. It was never Gods’ intention. Thanks for sharing!

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